How to Set the Right Goals for Your Success
Many people believe choosing goals are just that. You simply choose a goal, any goal that sounds like something you would like to achieve. But in reality it’s not quite that simple.
When you’re thinking about the goals you might be setting for yourself you want to make sure they’re the right ones for you. In order to figure this out you need to ask yourself a five very important questions. We’ll go over each of these questions and how they will help you to choose the right goals for success.
Before we begin, I would like to take a moment and tell you I am part of the Proctor Gallagher Institute’s, Bob Proctor’s Streaming Club. This is a club where once a week Bob Proctor and several of his colleagues teaches all they know about the law of attraction and becoming successful. They do this on a live streaming call once a week. All the information you’ll learn from this post is what I have learned from the streaming club. Additionally, much of the information, but not all, you’ll find throughout thegoodlife101.com is also information I have learned from Bob Proctor over the years. Now let’s get started.
Here are the 5 most important questions to ask yourself upon setting your success attaining goals.
- Would I love this?
- Will it Support My Growth?
- Does it Excite Me?
- Does it Scare Me?
- Do I know How to Achieve it?
Before we dive into these questions, let us go over the three main types of goals according to Bob Proctor and his business partner, Sandy Gallagher.
The 3 Types of Goals
The A Type Goal
First, we have A type goals. Then there are your B type goals and last we have our C type goals. An A type goal is a goal that you already know how to do. Either its very simple, you’ve done it before or you’ve seen someone else do it. This kind of goal doesn’t inspire you and there is nothing to fear because you’re not losing anything. Because you’re not doing anything new, you’re not learning anything; so there is no growth in it. An example of an A type goal would be to write and self-publish a second book. Even though writing a book is a feat in itself, if you’ve already done it then you aren’t learning anything new so there is no growth.
The B Type Goal
A B type goal is a goal that you can reason. Meaning, maybe something could be a great goal but then you reason with yourself about why it would or could never actually work. You talk about it and keep saying to yourself, “One day…” “One day when the kids are all grown up,” or, “One day when I have the extra money,” or, “One day when I’ve caught up on all my bills.” But that, one day, isn’t really a day that will ever come. It will always stay as a hypothetical because you will always reason with yourself about why you can’t do it right now. It’s something that will only ever be talked about without any action ever taken on it.
An example of a B type goal would be, you would like to open your own restaurant but you need to make sure that every single one of your debts is fully paid off before you apply for a loan from the bank. Even though you could pull it off now; you have enough money saved up in the bank, the fear of failing continuously has you thinking up reasons why you can’t do it now. So even on that miraculous day when you are actually fully caught up with all your debts, instead of going out and applying for that loan, you go out and buy a new car. Oops! Now you have another bill and need to wait till your new car is paid off. Your restaurant will always stay as a something that is only ever talked about.
The C Type Goal
The A and B type goals are where most people are. The A type of goal is dull and gives you no growth and the B type goal never moves passed your conscious mind. If you want to make things truly happen for yourself then you want a goal that is larger than life. This goal should both excite you and scare you. And, you should be able to entertain the idea through your subconscious mind since our subconscious mind is where we manifest. This is your C type goal.
C type goals are goal that are so big that we have no idea how we are going to make them work. Although, logically you know you can do anything you put your mind to, this C type goal is such a stretch outside your paradigm (paradigm: a belief system of which controls everything about you) that it takes actual effort on your part just to entertain the idea as a real possibility. You won’t be able to see how to make it happen and if you didn’t have faith that anything is possible you’d probably even dismiss it all together.
But this goal isn’t just something you would simply like to see happen. It’s a type of goal where you are not only willing to, but you actually want to give your life to it. It is the only type of goal in which you will need to cross something called the Terror Barrier. This type of goal should be so big that the steps won’t be able to come to you just by thinking it over for an hour or two. Just like Martin Luther King Jr. said, “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” And that is exactly what this type of goal will probably require from you because you won’t be able to see any of the steps until you take the ones before it.
An example of a C type goal would be to open your own restaurant and actually do it. Even before every one of your bills are paid off, you know you have enough money to pay your bills and you won’t have a problem. So you go to the bank and apply for the loan. The next month you have rented the space and are starting to make it your own. You are scared-to-death, but your excitement is hardly containable.
Now that we have gone over the 3 main types of goals there are, you want to make sure you’re choosing goals that are worthy. Many people would look at this question and wonder, Am I worthy of this goal? You need to understand you are worthy of every goal, no matter how big it is. The question is never about whether you are worthy, but is the goal worthy enough for you? The answer to this question lies within the answers to the 5 important questions you’re going to ask yourself upon making each goal. As you go through them, the questions will help you not only make sure your goal is, in fact, a C type goal, but they will also help to make sure the goals you choose are worthy of you and right for you, as just because something is a C type goal doesn’t mean it’s the perfect option for you personally.
The first question on the list is simple. For every goal you are thinking of setting, you need to ask yourself, “Would I love this?” It is a goal after all, and if it doesn’t make you happy then how is it going to motivate you to make it happen? Surprisingly, much of the time when people are setting their goals, whether it’s something they would truly love or not is overlooked. There are a couple reasons for this.
First, they might be doubtful they can actually pull off the goals they would really truly love. So instead, they decide on something else they aren’t so interested in but seems more plausible for them to achieve. It’s a catch 22. The reason someone wouldn’t be able to do something is simply because they don’t make up their mind to do it. And the reason they don’t make up their mind to do it because they think they wouldn’t be able to do it in the first place.
Another reason people don’t think about whether they would love something is because they’re looking at only one thing – how much money will this bring in? If it will make them a lot of money then there’s nothing left to think about. They would love the money that comes with it so whether the goal itself is something they would love becomes insignificant. But they’re not thinking long term or about what else the outcome of that goal might entail, like for instance, working 50-60 hour weeks or maybe being on call 6 out of 7 days. Many people are made for these kinds of hours, they love them. And then there are many who are not. For those people that are not, this kind of job would make them miserable no matter how much money it brought in.
These are just a couple reasons why it is so crucial when you’re setting your goals to ask yourself “Would I love this?” As you are learning about the law of attraction you’re being taught you don’t need to know how you’re going to achieve your goals upon setting them. All you need to know is how you want your life to look. This is your end result. But not all goals will be our end results. Some of them might be what is needed in order to bring about that end result. For example, instead of having a goal to be rich (end result), the goal would be to have a career that will make you rich (what is needed for end result). Whichever type of goal you’re talking about, the question, ‘Would I love this,?’ is just as important for one as it is the other and needs to be asked every time.
Before each goal you set take some time and imagine your life having achieved it. How has it changed your life? How do you feel about your day to day activities? Do they make you happy or is your daily situation unpleasant for you? Think about what you will have gained and whether those gains you receive will be worth the extra responsibilities you might have if you were to achieve the goal. Make a pros and cons list with some alternative goals and compare each one side by side. Is your main possible goal still something you would love? Or is there another goal that you might love even more and that might even be better suited for you?
Henry David Thoreau said, “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as who you become by achieving your goals.” Another way of putting it is to say the most important thing a person can gain from a goal is growth – emotional, spiritual and mindful growth. If you’re not growing from it, which we should all be growing from every decision we make, then it’s not an adequate goal for you. On the same note, if you’re achieving the same thing you’ve already achieved at least once before then it’s really not achieving much at all, and therefore, there’s no growth. On your pros and cons list that you’ll write out when trying to decide whether or not you would love the idea as recommended above, you might want to add another column – How Will It Help Me Grow?
Why do we get excited? What makes something exciting to begin with? The possibility of getting something out of it is what makes it exciting. If there is a possibility the results of something will make us happy in some way then we get excited about it. If I make a goal to take my kids to Disneyland, that will lead to having a fun vacation with my family, which makes me happy. If a child makes a goal to learn to ride a bike without training wheels she gets the feeling of accomplishment and possibly the new two-wheeler she’d been eyeing at Target, which makes her happy.
So, to ask the question, ‘Does this goal excite me?’ isn’t just asking, does it excite me. It’s asking, ‘Is what I get out of this goal enough for me?’ If you’re not getting excited about the goal then the answer is no. No, you’re not getting excited about it. So, no. You’re not getting enough out of it. So, no. This goal is not enough for you. This means, it may be a C type goal for someone, but since it doesn’t excite you it’s not a C type goal for you.
This could also coincide with the question, “Would I love this?” If it’s not something that excites you this could be largely due to it not being something you would truly love, and vice versa. Either way, you will need to do some serious thinking about your goal. You may end up coming to the conclusion that you need to think even bigger!
Does This Goal Scare Me?
Does your goal scare you? It should. If you go back to the section on the 3 different types goals you’ll see with the C type goal comes something called the terror barrier. The terror barrier is a stage of fear that must be pushed passed before your C goal can come to fruition. This terror barrier happens because C goals are the kind of goals you throw your whole life into it. They are the kind of goals where you go at them with everything you’ve got and put everything you have on the line to make them work. I don’t know about you but that sure sounds scary to me.
Of course, the fear isn’t always necessarily about your finances. Some of these big goals could just mean the use of a lot of your time and energy. And sometimes it’s just your pride you’re putting on the line and your fear is simply that what you’re trying to manifest won’t turn out. But for other goals, it could very well mean putting your whole life’s savings into it or taking out a second or even third mortgage on your house.
This would be scary, for sure, but experiencing the fear also lets you know you’re on the right track and have chosen a goal that is beneficial for you in the end. If you don’t have much to lose from achieving your goal then chances are, there’s probably not much to gain from it either. Plus, again, you’re most likely not learning and growing from it.
That being said, you should also understand just because fear is present, it doesn’t have to be prevalent. Your fear should not control the entire situation. As you will learn while studying the law of attraction, via here at The Good Life 101, Proctor Gallagher Institute or somewhere else, we receive in life whatever we are emotionally invested in. So if you are emotionally invested in the fear that you’re going to lose your life savings you put into the new bakery you just opened, then chances are your bakery will fail. On the flip side, If you are emotionally invested in the success of your new bakery, success is inevitable.
You should also understand fear is a natural and normal part of any goal you try to achieve and trying to avoid it all together and then failing to do so may make your fears that much more difficult to get through. Instead, expect to have those fears. Just make sure your excitement outweighs them. Try to develop a healthy respect for them. Then when you get to the terror barrier face it head on. Go through it with the faith that your success is waiting for you on the other side. Feel the fear that needs to be felt, then let it go and put your energy into acquiring your desired outcome.
How many times while studying the law of attraction have you heard that we don’t need to know how something is going to happen – that somehow the answers we need will just come to us on the way? Well, when setting goals you not only don’t need to know how you’re going to make something happen, but in fact, you shouldn’t know how you’re going to make it happen right away. The reason being, if you already know how to do it then there isn’t much growth in that goal. If you know how to achieve it then it’s not a C type goal at all, is it?
This is another spot so many people end up stuck. These people have big dreams but can’t set a single goal to obtain because every time they try they realize they have no idea how they are going to make it happen. This becomes overwhelming and they end up discarding the dream like an old shirt off their back. If they can’t figure it out right away completely stop entertaining the idea because they would rather not try at all then fail. But this isn’t how it works.
Upon deciding on your goal the only things you need to know for sure are exactly what you want your end result to look like and that, no matter what, everything you need to know about creating that end result will, at some point, come to you.
When we set out to achieve goals it is very rare that we achieve more than the actual goal at hand. What usually happens is we set a goal and then we achieve just a bit under that goal. So if you set a low goal, then what you achieve will be lower than that. Why would we set ourselves up that way? It’s kind of like setting yourself up for failure. You’re not necessarily failing, but you’re not fulfilling your maximum potential either. If you want to live up to your potential, or even just get close to it, then you can’t set small goals that come with even smaller results. Instead, you need to set the bar high – really high. You need to set the kind of goal where, in any other situation you would believe it to be impossible for you to achieve.
When Bob Proctor asks the question, ‘Why would someone make $100,000 a year?’ The answer is, ‘Because they haven’t figured out how to make $100,000 a month yet.’ But all they need to do in order to figure that out is to make it a goal to do so. You can make a goal to make $100,000 a year, or you can make a goal to make $100,000 a month. Maybe at first glance $100,000 a month would seem impossible. But that is what makes it such a great goal. And once you set that goal for $100,000 a month, maybe then you’ll start it off by making $100,000 a year.
As I’m sure you’ve heard several times already, 3% of people hold 97% of the money in the world. This is because most people don’t make big goals. So for a large chunk of that 97%, making big goals may not come so easy at first. These people’s paradigms are telling them trying to achieve amazing things is outside of their league. Their paradigm is telling them they are small and unworthy of large goals. It’s telling them C type goals are something the 3% do, but not the 97%. This paradigm has been preventing them from big goals their whole lives but it’s time to put that paradigm in its place. The only way to change this paradigm is to create a new one that will make the old one obsolete. And the only way to do that is to start by setting and achieving huge C type goals your old paradigm never would have allowed before.
It’s important to be in tuned with your intuition during all of this. Sometimes a goal might not be right for you and your intuition will know it. You don’t want to ignore your intuition, mistaking it for your old paradigm trying to sabotage you. But how do you know whether it’s your paradigm or your intuition? First of all, always keep in mind, since your intuition is Spirit (God or The Universe), and Spirit is infinite intelligence who knows everything at all times, even long before it happens, the first answer you receive will always be your. So follow that first voice and trust it.
You can read more about How to Read the Signs from the Universe here.
And here you can read more about How to Get Through the Terror Barrier.
That was just a small piece of cautionary advice. Now, having said that, know that as long as you listen to your intuition and make sure your excitement is always stronger than your fears you will be a firecracker. I hope you learned a lot from this post and if you have anything else you’d like to share about how to choose great goals please share them with us in the comments below.